July 13, 2025
Deena gifted me the book "Meditations for Mortals" by Oliver Burkeman and I just finished it today and wanted to thank her profusely for turning me on to it. And, I also want to give you all my biggest takeaways. For starters the book allowed me to let go of so many "shoulds" and guilt over my lack of accomplishments (when a kid from Kingman announces to the world at age 16 that he will make movies and he wakes up at 78 and hasn't made any, unless you count "V-2 Rocket Farm," it can be a tad discouraging).
Daily Whip Out:"First Light On New River Mesa, Sketch # 27"
So, based on the book, here are my main takeaways:
"Accept who you are, where you are. . .and actually do one thing today that truly matters." You know, like tell your family how much you appreciate them and what they mean to you. Which I just did.
"You are here. This is it. You don't much matter—yet you matter as much as you ever did."
Lighten up. "There will always be too much to do, and the future will always be out of our control."
"Life is like playing a violin solo in public and learning the instrument as one goes on."
—Samuel Butler
"Everyone is screwed up. broken, clingy, and scared, even the people who seem to have it more or less together. They are much more like you than you would believe. So try not to compare your insides to their outsides."
—Anne Lamott
And, so, while Lamott writes off the whole of humanity as a bunch of losers, it is liberating to accept this because, "what sounds insulting is actually liberating."
In the end this loser finally got it. Ha. Here is my great grandfather's gravestone at Steins Pass, New Mexico:
This morning, a friend of mine sent me a link to a new tune. Check it out:
I had mixed feelings watching this. For one thing I laughed and laughed because it seemed so ridiculous that a "ballad" would be written about the things I have done, but on another level it was absolutely enjoyable, like listening to a song—a eulogy—played at my own funeral!
And, since we're going with the eulogy metaphor, since so many people counted me out, over and over, growing up, here is what I currently want on my gravestone in Mountain View Cemetery in Kingman, Arizona:
BOB BOZE BELL
Proving people wrong since 1946